Difficult bosses are far too common, unfortunately. Gallop estimates that 82% of the time organizations put the wrong people in management positions. Which isn’t that surprising considering that only 1 in 10 people possess high talent to manage. This will likely lead to issues between managers and employees. And not addressing issues at work can lead to devastating health effects. So whether your boss tries to micromanage you, intimidate you, or takes credit for your ideas, it’s important to address this. Consider these 5 steps as you prepare to discuss issues with your boss.
Ensure that everything has been documented
Before meeting with your boss, it would be helpful to have something documented that you could reference. And hopefully you won’t be in this position, but if they retaliate you’ll have documented proof of their behavior.
Be specific about the issue
You should be very specific about the issue you’re addressing and be as straightforward as possible. Try not to discuss several issues in one setting, if they’re not related. And be sure that you’re not coming across as accusatory.
It’s a good idea to think through solutions when you have a problem. This is no different. Be prepared to present to your boss the possible solutions to the issue. After discussing the issue you could simply state that you’ve thought through some possible solutions.
Create a script & review it with someone you trust
Take the time to think through everything that you’re going to say. It’s also best to write it down and practice it. Become comfortable with the words you want to use. Then say the script to someone you trust and get their feedback. It’s possible that you’re not specific enough or could be too aggressive in your tone and wouldn’t know this without getting feedback.
Go through your script and remain calm
No matter if your boss begins to show their anger or frustration, don’t do the same. Remain calm and specifically discuss the issue. Don’t bring up other things. Stay focused on the particular issue and after you’ve allowed them time to respond, you can present your possible solutions. Give them opportunity to provide solutions as well. Attempt to end the conversation with agreed upon next steps or resolution.
If you find that the conversation is escalating and you’re unable to talk through solutions, you could ask your boss whether they’d like to continue the conversation at a later time. Be sure to provide a specific time to ensure that the issue is resolved. You may also want to consider whether you’d like to add someone else to the meeting for another perspective.
Bringing up issues with a difficult boss isn’t easy but at the risk of health issues it must be done. In addition, although these conversations are difficult they’re important for your professional development. They allow you to grow and develop your skill of navigating such situations, as there will likely be many more difficult conversations you’ll have in your career.
This article was originally published on SheKnows.